OKAY, FIRST OFF, YES I THINK ABOUT THIS A LOT SO THANK YOU FOR THIS.
SO, I stand firmly in the camp of “Ernesto disassociating himself from his actions and consequences” and “he deeply romanticizes himself and the world.” So the theme of this ask is “storytelling.” (This was the big theme I worked with on the “My Best Friend” comic and have been dying to talk about)
Short answer, though, is YES but with a catch!
Everywhere you go throughout the movie, you get Ernesto the Story. We’re introduced to the “legend” through Miguel’s idealized story of him, we hear about his early days from the always-positive-and-always-avoiding-the-subject Héctor, we see his films… we see him cultivated as a story again and again. I think, largely, this is because he presents himself as a story. Some examples of this are: we see him narrating his life to Miguel in his mansion, showing off HIS grandson to everyone, and the film reels playing. He LOVES being the hero. He LOVES being a celebrity. He loves living up the role. ( And nothing, NOTHING can intervene with his “truth.”
With that level of disassociation of himself, I imagine he romanticizes his friendship with Héctor. He’s so kind to Héctor when they meet up in the tower– well, you know, riiiiight until Héctor figures out the truth. It’s only when Ernesto’s “truth” is questioned that he takes action to fix the narrative. Ernesto may miss his friend but certainly doesn’t recognize what he did… as he…. proceeds to do it again…
Remorse can go two ways. Either you regret your actions or you regret the consequences. I think he falls more into the latter rather than the former (Héctor being the former and why they’re SUCH GOOD FOILS). I believe for a hot moment, Ernesto was ready to be friends again but when Héctor didn’t play into the role, the touching memories are shattered. The narrative has to be corrected. I touch on it in my “Remember Me” comic but I think Ernesto does miss his friend, or rather, the moments/memories Héctor gave to him. He regrets losing that but *shrug* the show must go on. The story must continue. The legend must live on.
“My whole life, there’s been
something that made me different…
and I never knew where it came
from. But now I know. It comes from you. I’m proud we’re family!”