You can’t be an “aspec positive” exclusionist.
You can be an aspec exclusionist – I’m not one to police identities, unlike some of y’all – but you cannot be an aspec positive exclusionist.
Supporting aspec people – including those who may not identify with the LGBTQ+ community for whatever reason – is more than empty positivity. The continual denial of aspec existence – whether it be denying that minors can and do identify as aspec, denying that a fictional character could be or is aspec, or denying that ‘cishet’ aspec people can and do sometimes exist within LGBTQ+ spaces – is in direct contrast to people who are actually supportive of aspecs.
Aphobia is rampant within exclusionist communities – you mock our terminology (see: queerplatonic/quasiplatonic, squish, aplatonic, demisexual, etc.) and you make it clear that we are not to discuss our experiences (see: that never happened, ok but it’s still not marginalization/oppression tho, etc.).
When I try to talk about my experiences about being a-spec and being Christian, you talk over me. When people try to discuss violence they’ve experienced for being aspec, you talk over them. When we discuss fear of doctors and psychiatrists because we talk about our orientation and they pathologize it, you talk over us. When people try to talk about their family hurting them, with words or actions, because of their aspec identity, you talk over them.
And see, even if you don’t do these things personally, when you ally yourselves with people who do, you are just as deserving of the title of aphobe as they are. If you’re ace or aro or whatever that doesn’t make you any less – but you’re still hurting our community as a whole, and I despise you as much as I despise them for it.
Exclusionist = aphobe. No two ways to split it.
So go ahead – pat yourself on the back for being “ace positive” and queue up another “you are valid” on your “positivity” blog. You’re still a piece of shit, and your empty words are pretty damn obvious to any of us who are looking.
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