you’re absolutely right- I am extremely self-aware. Maybe I was always that way to some extent, but I’ve become more and more that way over time through intentional practice. Self-monitoring is such a key part of coping and mental health. There are a couple of specific things I like to do when self-monitoring negative mood:
1. I play the “is this a BIG deal?” game. The game is pretty obvious: I decide whether whatever’s going on is a big deal, a medium deal, or a small deal. If it’s a small deal, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t matter or I can’t be upset. It’s a great way to validate: “yes, it’s a small deal, but it’s still a deal.” and then refocus my thoughts elsewhere. If it’s a medium deal or a big deal, then I can still validate and ask myself if there’s anything I can do about it right now. If yes, then I try to do it. If no, then I decide whether I should try to refocus or whether I need some time to decompress. So many things are a small deal, and keeping that in mind helps me not let those things overwhelm me.
2. I ask myself “what would I do if I was in a good mood?” Like many people, my instinct during a bad mood is to cater to that mood. The problem is that it can become a self-fulfilling cycle: the things I want to do during a bad mood often just perpetuate the bad mood, while the things I want to do during a good mood can perpetuate the good mood. So by checking to see what I would do if everything was the same, except that I was in a good mood, I can make sure I’m making the best choice for myself in that situation.
as someone who legitimately spent obscene amounts of my time and energy fighting off TERFs in this website and dunking on them and finding new and creative ways to make them look like shit I’m gonna tell you the truth that it’s fucking uiseless: it doesn’t matter how thoroughly you humiliate these people, how much you make them come off as complete fucking losers (which many of them are), because every single thing you do against them is something they can frame into the grand victim narrative their ideology is based on. the best way you can fight off terfs (and this is something cis people should be doing) is serial deplatforming, blocklists, and going and ensuring that you block any terfs who show up in your notes. if you need to attack the ideology, attack their beliefs without giving them notes, and do this actually in a comprehensive manner that isn’t just “lol terfs are dumb” and please specially refrain from reblogging their giant anti-trans posts with just some kind of one liner own against them: you’re just giving them exposure and helping them spread their beliefs around.
any post you can make that’s like “haha reblog this to piss off a terf!” is worthless in the face of what actually and truly pisses them off the most: discovering that they’re doing absolutely nothing but screaming into the void because thousands of people have blocked them with no engagement. these people have taken the same stance towards getting mass blocked as twitter alt-righters do (ITS A VIOLATION OF MY FREE SPEECH!) and this is for a reason.
Okay elitist movie critics and Hollywood nabobs who think that you’re far too erudite to enjoy a Marvel movie, listen the fuck up. I’m going to explain to you why the MCU movies continue to make money despite all your nattering about superhero fatigue and boilerplate plots. Living in your upside down little world where only the only good films are ones from auteurs who make disjointed, violent filled masterpieces with “real” actors and graphic images of rape, you are so removed from the average movie goer that you can no longer gauge what is good or bad.
First, let’s talk about the death of postmodernism and the fact that the majority of Hollywood’s audience has NEVER been postmodern. Fragmented images, a collection of flotsam and jetsam, missing connective tissue … there’s a reason Thomas Pynchon books don’t sell well.
i'll apple your turnover 