(First, I’m sorry this took so long to answer, anon! Life has been a bit overwhelming the last couple of months.)
I’m happy to delve into this a bit. Aging and such is something I think people need to talk about. Otherwise it can be scary sometimes. So for anyone curious, I will be turning 40 on my next birthday.
A little background. I’ve been part of fandom since I was 24 years old. Back then, fandom was a little different and instead of tolerating older fans, we embraced them. I remember going to a Harry Potter conference in 2007. I went to a fanfiction panel that had five women on it, all in their 40s and 50s. They were so happy and confident in their place in fandom and their friendships. It was absolutely beautiful to see.
I remember thinking I hope that’s me some day. Now, of course, things are different. I regularly see posts making fun of people over a certain age for still being in fandom.
We’re all going to get old some day. There’s no stopping that. But getting older doesn’t mean you suddenly lose interest in the things you love. You might have less time to geek out about them, but you’re not gonna lose interest.
I think the key is finding yourself little corner of fandom. Find some people around the same age as you. (For me, I consider ‘same age’ anyone over thirty. There is no upper limit.)
Then basically, once you have this corner, it’s time to say ‘fuck it.’ That might sound harsh, but I refuse to let anyone take away something that makes me happy. Gaming and reading and writing fanfic brings me a ridiculous amount of joy. It’s helped me make friends from all over the world.
Do not let anyone take away your joy. You have just as much of a right to be in fandom as anyone else. And anon, you’re always welcome in my little corner of fandom!
Listen, nonnie. I have been in fandom since I was 14? 15? and I turn 36 tomorrow. This is a thing that has been part of me for more than half my life.
I don’t know how old you are, but when I was first starting out in fandom, it was considered a grown-up pursuit. Sure there were places for under 18s, but the people who ran the mailing lists, wrote the newsgroup FAQs, and paid for archive hosting fees? All adults. It was… I don’t want to say unusual for younger people to be in fandom, but it was made clear that you behaved respectfully in community/adult spaces. Or you pretended (very badly) to be an adult and the actual adults overlooked it.
It was super helpful to me as a young-un to have older female fans to look up to, and know that I could be an adult (whatever the fuck that means) and still have room for hobbies and interests I loved. It was also helpful, just as a person, to have a network of older women who were invested in my well-being but not necessarily involved in my day to day life to turn to. I am grateful for my fandom aunties, and I hope I can be there for younger fans the same way.
I feel like a lot of the “Ew adults in fandom” bullshit comes from younger fans who can barely conceive of reaching 30 as a non-abstract thing, and suffer from deep misapprehensions of what adult life is like. Yes you have to deal with stupid things like insurance and taxes, but you also have so much more freedom to enjoy the things you love. I am also irritated by so many heteronormative presumptions these people seem to have: you get married, have kids, and become so incredibly boring nobody wants you in fandom anyways. Not everybody gets married or has kids, and neither of those things makes you boring, you make yourself boring.
So find yourself some friends to grow old with, and stick to them like limpets. If you can’t, find new friends. I have found that in new fandoms, I tend to gravitate towards people my age and older, even if I don’t know it at the time. If you’re enthusiastic and kind, that’s honestly all most people require to start talking. There is room for you in fandom always, no matter what age you are.
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Dalinar WoB
Stormstoyou: The Third Bondsmith Ideal that Dalinar swears in the end of “Oathbringer”. About taking responsibilities and becoming a better man. Does it the basic Ideal for ALL Bondsmith or this is Dalinar’s personal interpretation of the Ideal?
Brandon Sanderson: This is Dalinar’s personal interpretation, but ideals for a given order do have similar themes person to person.
“It turns out the 2018 midterm elections were pretty much a rout. Counting all the votes makes all the difference in the world. In the House, as of this writing, the Democratic gains are up to 30 with about five more races still to be called — in which Democrats are leading. A gain of 35 seats would be the largest House pickup for Democrats since the first post-Watergate midterm election in 1974. The Democrats picked up seven governorships, with Stacey Abrams, as of now, still fighting to make it to a runoff in Georgia, and Andrew Gillum trailing by 0.4 percentage points, enough to trigger a recount in Florida. In the Senate, Democrats may not quite have pulled off an inside straight, but they had two aces — in Nevada and Arizona. With 26 seats to defend, many in red states, it now looks as if their losses will be small. Democrats won in Nevada and are now poised to pick up a seat in Arizona.”
—
Three days later: Hey, Republicans really did get clobbered
Early on Election night, idiot relic James Carville told progressives that there was no Blue Wave. This set a narrative that idiot right wing dickheads were happy to run with, because it demoralizes progressives and our allies.
When this is all done, it looks like the “not a blue wave” will result in Democrats controlling the House after winning around THIRTY seats, and Republicans will continue to control the Senate after picking up a single seat.
It’s clear and undeniable that America is fed up with Trump and people like him, and it’s clear and undeniable that Americans are overwhelmingly good and decent people who reject Fascism and Authoritarianism.
Don’t let Trump and his lying allies trick you into thinking that America is the country they want it to be, because it’s very clear that it isn’t. To be sure, there are pockets of regressive, racist, revanchist trash in our country, but they are outnumbered by those of us who reject everything they stand for.
It’s heartbreaking to lose close races, but we must remember that the forces of evil have rigged the game against the forces of good, and they are still either losing or barely winning.
Have faith in your fellow humans. We’re going to prevail, together.
Sketch to try to nail down a look for Evi. “Insulting my biceps is ridiculous” Dalinar just appeared during the process.
Ugh, the OB flashbacks. Everything hurts.
wanted to test out some different colouring methods with that Cool Scene in crit role featuring Fjord!
My Dungeons & Dragons 5E bookmarks folder
Here’s all the bookmarks in my 5e folder. Not everything may be
specifically 5e related but since we’ve started playing this edition, this is what
I’ve collected so far.Discuss D&D 5E rules and products.
A collection of player made guides
Pre-Generated Character Repository | WotC
A Resource for Players and DMs
Zenith Games: 5th Edition Guide to the Guides
Original, 10 minute ambiences and music for Tabletop Role Playing Games.
How to search this rules forumn | The Wizards Community
Searching this forumn does not seem to work for me.
Barbarians
I’ll NEVER Die! (A Guide to the 5E Barbarian)
Seen guides pop up the last few weeks for
rangers, wizards, clerics, paladins, and warlocks, but I don’t think
there’s one for the 5E barbarian yet. Seeing as it’s so straight
forward, I feel like it might not be needed, but because it’s so
straight forward, it’s also really easy for me to make it, so here you
guys goGraceful Destruction: A Guide to Dex Based Barbarism | The Wizards Community
Graceful Destruction
Contents:
Intoductions
Stats and Races
Class Features
Path Features
Skills, Backgrounds and Feats
Weapons and Armour
Multiclassing
Sample Builds
Clerics
The Devout and the Dead: a guide to Clerics
The Devout and the Dead
a guide to ClericsGreetings, Playground!
I am going to be playing a Cleric soon, and, (being unfamiliar with 5e)
come to you guys to figure out Clerics and their Domains.For God and Party-A Cleric’s guide. | WotC
Table of Contents
Dictum Mortuum’s The Cleric Handbook | WotC
Hello All
Celestial Link Evoking Radiance Into Creation – CLERIC guide | WotC
Druids
By your Powers Combined: A Land Druid Handbook | WotC
By Your Powers Combined: A Land Druid Handbook
5e Druid Handbook – Land & Moon
5th edition D&D Druid Handbook
Version 2.0Druids
[WIP] Thy Fearful Symmetry: A Circle of the Moon Handbook | The Wizards Community
A holistic guide for Circle of the Moon Druids.
5th edition D&D Druid Guide
Version 1.7Fighters
The Art of War: A Fighter Guide | The Wizards Community
The Art of War: A Fighter Guide
Fighting Styles Overview/Discussion/Whathaveyou
Ok So I havent seen any thread that
specifically deals with the fighting styles in 5eBow Bond: An Eldritch Knight’s guide to Archery | The Wizards Community
Bow Bond: An Eldritch Knight’s guide to Archery
An Optimized Polearm Master Fighter Template | The Wizards Community
VARIANT HUMAN BUILD
Eldritch Knight Tactica – A Guide | The Wizards Community
This is a work in progress – but open for discussion.
Monks
Meditation, Mediation, Devastation: A Monk’s Guide | The Wizards Community
How does one Monk?
The Good, the Bad and the Monk, a 5e Monk guide
I’m not going to explain why you would play a monk, or what the role of a
monk isPaladins
Oathbound: The Paladin Guide | The Wizards Community
“It is not the oath that makes us believe the man, but the man the oath.”
— Aeschylus
Good is Not Nice: A Paladin’s Guide
"My good blade carves the casques of men,
My tough lance thrusteth sure,
My strength is as the strength of ten,
Because my heart is pure.“
A Guide to the D&D 5th Edition Paladin through the eyes of a 3.5 Player
Guide to the Dungeons & Dragons 5E Paladin through the eyes of a 3rd Edition Player
Rangers
Not All Who Wander are Lost: A Ranger’s Guide
“All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost.”
-J.R.R. Tolkien, The Lord of the Rings
Into the Woods We Go: The Ranger Guide | The Wizards Community
“You’re no ranger, Jon, only a green boy with the smell of summer still on you.”
— A Game of Thrones
Rogues
Dealing Death: Handbook of the True Assassin | The Wizards Community
“Nothing is true. Everything is permitted.”
— Alamut by Vladimir BartolWizards
Arrive on Time – A General Guide to Wizardry | The Wizards Community
Overview: What is a Wizard?
A Compilation of Useful Spell Lists | The Wizards Community
A Compilation of Useful Spell Lists
Know Your Rites: A Guide to Ritual Casting | The Wizards Community
A guide to casting ritual spells.
5th Edition Spells Spreadsheet
I spent some
time and put together a spell spreadsheet that lists all the spells by
class, level, school, and some other quick reference items.
Find Familiar confusion | The Wizards Community
Hi,
So here’s the thing.
Ultanya: Dungeons & Dragons: Thaumaturgy
Treantmonk’s Guide to Wizards 5e – Google Docs
Treantmonk’s Guide to 5e Wizards – Google Docs
Backgrounds
What’s Your Story: A Custom Background Guide | The Wizards Community
What’s Your Story: A Custom Background Guide
In this guide I will be using the standard CharOp colour scheme:
A forum for discussing roleplaying games. Speak your mind here without fear!
The D&D 5th Edition backgrounds database!
A Gamers Point of View: Custom 5e Backgrounds for the Forgotten Realms
List of All Personality Traits, Ideals, Bonds, and Flaws | The Wizards Community
If you are like me and you like to scan through all
of the backgrounds to find the perfect set of personality traits,
ideals, bonds, and flaws for your character, then these lists might come
in handy.
Musran
Nephthys – Simple English Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Nephthys – The Forgotten Realms Wiki – Books, races, classes, and more
Nephthys (pronounced nef-thiss ) is a vain but caring member of the Mulhorandi pantheon. She is…
Nephthys | Humus | Obsidian Portal
Protector of the Dead
* *Symbol*: Horns around a lunar disk
* *Home Plane*: The Offering Fields
* *Alignment*: Chaotic Good
* *Portfolio*: Death, grief
* *W
Nephthys – Deities of Faerûn – Mulh Pantheon
Realms Helps: Nephthys – Deities of Faerûn – Mulh Pantheon
Mulhorand – The Forgotten Realms Wiki – Books, races, classes, and more
Mulhorand is one of the Old Empires in eastern Faerûn. The Mulhorandi were brought to Toril from…
Candlekeep Forum – Which Faerunian gods could go to Mulhorand easily
Gnomes
Gnome – The Forgotten Realms Wiki – Books, races, classes, and more
Gnomes, or the Forgotten Folk as they are sometimes known, are small fey humanoids
Realms
Glossary of Phrases, Sayings & Words of the Realms
Candlekeep Forum – Glossary of Phrases, Sayings & Words of the Realms
Tools
New Automated Tools for 5E | The Wizards Community
Instead of starting a new thread for every set
of tools I create, I am going to use this thread from now on. I will
continue to make updates to it as I create new tools. Here is the
complete set of tools I’ve created to date:
Name generator for RPGs, video games, novels, etc.. Can generate names
for elves, dwarves, barbarians, “evil” names, “Lovecraftian” names,
modern English names, and others.
D&D 5e Pre-Made Characters – Table Topping
Dungeons and Dragons 1E-3E-5E Monster Converter
1d8: Point Buy Calculator for D&D Next (5e)
Javascript DDNext Character Generator Lite
RK’s D&D Treasure Generator (5e) – Setup
Dungeon maps for RPG. Create maps online, download as PDF and PNG.
Dungeon Painter is a powerful rpg map design
tool. Scene Viewer is a free encounter mapping tool that you can embed
into forum or blog posts
[Resource Guide] World and Map Generation : DnD
In an effort to better serve the community, the
moderation staff will be creating a series of guides and collections of
resources over the next…
Cartographers’ Guild – a community for maps of fantasy, sci-fi and real world locations
A forum for cartography enthusiasts.
D&D 5E Tools: Attribute Point-Buy Calculator
A point-buy calculator for Dungeons and Dragons 5th Edition
The Elf Name Generator: Your Sindarin Elf Name
Elf names. Create elf names with the Sindarin
elf name generator! View lists of elf names, generate random names, or
choose an elf name based on your own name. Great for rpgs and mmorpgs.
Fantasy name generators. Names for all your fantasy characters.
A fantasy name generator for every fantasy
character. From Chinese to Viking and from dragon to werewolf, I have a
fantasy name generator for all your needs.
Kobold Fight Club: The first rule of KFC is ‘Yip yip!’
Dave’s Mapper | RPG Map Generator
Geomorphic map generator web app for role-playing enthusiasts. Created by web designer and puzzle author David Millar.
Town Map Maker ©2003 Jeffrey A. Mills, DVM
Barrow of the Evensong | The Wizards Community
An Adventure Location for 3rd-Level Characters
goblinoidgames.com • View forum – Maps and Map Making
Magic: the Gathering Art. Best MTG Art, updated
daily with new and old artworks. Organized by artists and mtg sets, Art
of Magic the Gathering is an ever growing collection of amazing magic
fantasy artworks.
Pods and Blogs
Stories of the Fifth Age, Ep. 0 “Beginnings…” | The Mad Adventurers Society
A website and podcast following a group of 5th
Edition Dungeons & Dragons players in custom D&D5e campaign in
Washington, D.C.
Dire Weasels’ Podcast : A “real play” 5th Edition Dungeons and Dragons Campaign
A bunch of drunks get together and make
offensive jokes while playing dungeons and dragons.A Chronicle of one man’s heroic return to the land of Dungeons & Dragons (by bigAl)
Lost Mine of Phandelver (5th edition D&D) | JM Hauser’s Blog
Starting in July 2014, Wizards of the Coast
released the newest version of their classic roleplaying game, Dungeons
& Dragons.Samson’s Bridge: A Dungeons and Dragons Campaign built from the ground up
http://dictummortuum.blogspot.com/
The home of Starwalker Sudios Podcasts
Encounter Roleplay – D&D Advice, Reviews, Comics and Podcasts!
D&D Advice, Reviews, Comics and Podcasts!
Stories of the Fifth Age | The Mad Adventurers Society
Dyson’s Dodecahedron | Award Winning Dungeon Design
Award Winning Dungeon Design
Adventures | Dyson’s Dodecahedron
Many of the maps on the site have full adventures written for
them.Nerdarchy – For Nerds By Nerds
Nerdarchy for nerds by nerds specializing in
role-playing games especially as game masters for d20 systems like
Dungeons & Dragons and Pathfinder RPG games.
reddit: the front page of the internet
The Old Road, Part 1: Sunless Citadel
A Site for Table Top RPG Discussion and Creation–Share it, Like It, Follow It, Comment!
Blogging about D&D / Role Playing
Dungeons & Dragons Chris Perkins – Archive
Dungeons & Dragons – Wizards of the Coast
A geek’s musings on the games he loves to play (by Chris Perkins)
Homebrew
Roll up your sleeves and get working: there’s lots
of homebrewin’ to be done!Post your homebrew material, and share your house
rules, creations, game aids and tools, character sheets, and moreLet’s talk about flying items.
Just a man and his homebrew world.
Customized Races – The Saurials
Define your own! – Campaign Calendar
Donjons et Dragons le jeux de role
Dungeons and Dragons Adventures levels 1-3, the low levels
Dungeons and Dragons Adventures for characters levels 1st through 3rd, 1-3.
Caves of Chaos Reimagined by Weem | theWeem
Caves of Chaos Map Redux | RPG Cartography
I think that a map can be a DM’s best friend
when running an adventure. However, many adventure maps do not provide
much additional information other than location and a reference key
number to that points to text in the adventure. I took the classic map
of the Caves of Chaos from Gygax (1979) Keep on the Boarderlands…
NPCs for the Caves of Chaos D&D Next Playtest: Sly Flourish
Belgarion’s World for Eternal Soldier: Character Creation
Stores
So anyone have any other sites I need to add to my collection?
Useful.
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