Wait you support pedophilic ships? That’s gross and it does affect real life abuse victims

nonbinarypastels:

Anon, I am a real life abuse survivor and what people ship does not affect me because I can easily avoid content for ships that I don’t like or find triggering if I exercise the barest amount of responsibility for my own online experience just as every other abuse survivor can.

What affects me as an abuse survivor is seeing people constantly put my abuse on the same level as fictional stories about fictional cartoon characters who 99% of the time are not even children, seeing people constantly mis-use the word pedophilia to describe anything and everything other than actual CSA, seeing people constantly falsely accused of being pedophiles and pedophile apologists—including multiple other CSA survivors—over the fictional content they read or over not wanting to see their abuse trivialized by having it compared to that fictional content or even just for not wanting to get involved with this ridiculous fandom mess to the point where everyone on this entire website has alarm fatigue over it and doesn’t take actual allegations of actual predators seriously anymore.

What affects me as an abuse survivor is seeing people constantly use me and other CSA survivors as prop in a cyberbullying campaign over ship wars, using us and their so-called “defense” of us to justify telling people to kill themselves, that they deserve to die and be assaulted, and making an absolute mockery of the abuse that I went through and that other CSA survivors have went through by having the audacity to act like shipping an 18 year old cartoon character with another cartoon character in their 20s is just as bad as being sexually abused as a child.

That isn’t me “supporting pedophilic ships”, that is me being absolutely against a fandom culture that normalizes abuse of other fans and puts the well-being of fictional characters who do not exist over the well-being of actual, real life human beings and actual, real-life abuse survivors while advocating for people to take responsibility for their own online and fandom experience by using the resources available to them to avoid content that they don’t want to see.

I don’t like a damn good lot of ships that people ship or things that people write but at the end of the day I don’t care about the kind of fiction people consume. I care about how people treat other people because that defines who they are as a person much, much more than the fiction they read ever will.